Abandon all hope, ye who enter here

To the feminist bastards who don't belong anywhere!

Welcome to my surrender to patriarchal insanity for all those who have the misfortune to desire men, who are fed up with people-pleasing, crap-fitting, patriarchal compliance, asymmetrical gender relations, unpaid housework, and the reproductive underload of men!

„Either you're a feminist or you're a misogynist. There is no category called ‚other.’”

What is/would be feminism?

Assuming there was still such a thing as feminism, it would be a political movement to liberate women from their worldwide oppression as unpaid domestic workers and servants of men, who are not allowed to make their own decisions about their bodies and sexuality and who are subjected to hostility or silencing when they demand money, visibility, and leisure time, and to ridicule or erasure when they express their own desires.

„Masculinity is not critically examined and collectively attacked in its current form, but is approached only on an individual, feminist level.”
(Kim Posster: „Männlichkeit verraten!” [Betraying Masculinity!], 2023)

Since the late 1970s, there has been (perceived) no feminism that goes beyond image campaigns, symbolic gestures, or the media-effective scandalization of violence. There is no movement that opposes the hierarchy in the gender-specific division of labor and the crisis-ridden construct of masculinity with its rejection of femininity, or that de-mands equal participation of men in reproductive work and quotas for men. The intersectional movement of the International Feminist Collective, with its revolutionary call for „wages for housework” to enable all women to achieve independence and freedom of choice even in their first jobs, is now only mentioned in the form of a „care income” on globalwomenstrike.net. On the contrary, the demand for payment for housework is defamed as hypo-thetical „handout distribution” and equal paternity leave is kept below one percent.

„Women are oppressed, as women. But men are not opressed as men.“

In her 1983 collection of essays, „The Politics of Reality,” Marilyn Frye summarized the fact that men are not op-pressed because of their gender, whereas women are. They are assigned lower-paid jobs and unpaid care work. They are more affected by sexualized violence, body shaming, and reproductive control. Anger and resistance are more easily interpreted as madness than is the case with men. And, of course, the patriarchal construction of sexu-ality dictates that women must be sex objects and satisfiers of men's needs.

„Either women strive to leave patriarchy behind, or they try to rise within it.”
(Claudia von Werlhof: „Die Verkehrung der Welt” [The Reversal of the World], 2011)

Ego service and recognition

While the old feminist warhorses were still able to point out the shittiness of things without sacrificial panic, today's feminists and gender women tend to go easy on men. Even when they do criticize, they never tire of ending on an optimistic note or softening their criticism with gratitude for every crumb of bread. Women in particular have a co-dependent reflex that naturally focuses on the problems of others. Demanding women's rights and pointing out male ignorance poses an existential threat to those addicted to recognition who have been conditioned to desire men. If women did not engage in ego service for men and recovered from their addiction to pleasing and harmony, capi-talist patriarchy would lead straight to hell.

„In the context of intersectional political engagement, she selflessly, caringly, and unpaidly advocates for those she considers more oppressed than herself. This recourse to the virtues of female socialization becomes all the more unre-flective the less feminism denounces the patriarchal conditioning of womanhood, which affects homosexual and bi-sexual women just as much as heterosexual women.”
(Koschka Linkerhand, in: „Feministisch streiten” [Feminist Debate], 2018)

SEX MATTERS

Sex is not gender

Gender, trans, queer: terms that lack a uniform definition and replace once-coherent concepts. Ever since queer theory – with all due respect – has imposed itself on feminism, the political focus has become diluted, goals have become unclear, and often incompatible interests compete with one another. Whereas “sex” used to be distin-guished from “gender” as immutable biological sex and role stereotype or social sex, today both are understood as equally constructed, used interchangeably, and obscured by the perspective of gender identity as a further meaning of gender. If biological sex and gender are not decoupled from each other, women who do not conform to patriar-chal notions of femininity internalize misogyny because they see the stereotypes (gender) imposed on them as in-herent to their sex. It is desirable that, with the decoupling of gender identity from physical characteristics, it be-comes easier for trans men and female non-binary persons to forego surgical or hormonal gender reassignment interventions.

„It is not just trans people who face discrimination on the grounds of gender non-conformity. And yet it is only trans people who there is a serious social effort to protect from this kind of discrimination.”
(Holly Lawford-Smith: „Gender-Critical Feminism”, 2022)

Abolition instead of reinterpretation of social gender

Non-conformity with social gender is normal and should be expected. This is evident in the growing number of people who identify as non-binary. In addition, many other people, such as masculine-presenting lesbians, are breaking through the narrow gender boundaries without receiving the same attention as transgender people. If there were more gender-atypical women and men, non-binary gender categories would gradually be abolished. However, due to heterosexual male dominance, it would still be advantageous to present oneself as particularly feminine or masculine. Therefore, the solution always lies primarily in eliminating misogyny, which would allow everyone to fully express their personality.

„Die Vielfalt wird beeinträchtigt, wenn Frauen sich umschauen und unter dem Begriff ‚Frauen’ nur eine eingeschränkte Version von Weiblichkeit repräsentiert sehen, da nicht-feminine Frauen sich nun als nicht-binär oder Transmänner identifizieren.“
(Holly Lawford-Smith: „Gender-Critical Feminism“, 2022)

Including gender expression in anti-discrimination law

It would be desirable for all those who have benefited from the devaluation of women, such as trans women or supposedly effeminate men, to fight for women's liberation and the dissolution of gender norms. However, because this is not the case and women are always relegated to the bottom of the gender hierarchy, women develop a special form of co-dependency in which they sacrifice themselves for others in order to avoid being labeled transphobic, queerphobic, TERFs, or privileged, to avoid drawing attention to their women-specific concerns, or to avoid risking rejection.

„This means that there's a large group which have something in common, namely non-conformity with the current norms of masculinity and femininity. We can protect it by adding gender expression (or presentation) to the list of protected attributes in our countries' Equality Acts. This makes a lot more sense than saying that anyone who identi-fies as a woman should be legally protected as female.“
(Holly Lawford-Smith: „Gender-Critical Feminism”, 2022)

IF NOTHING CHANGES, NOTHING CHANGES

Gender pluralization to conceal misogyny

It is not the binary gender image or heteronormativity that is the problem of unequal rights and rigid gender roles, but rather the devaluation of femininity and the social exploitation of women. While international feminism in the „wages for housework” movement targeted all women, whether employed or not, including sex workers, „feminism for all” now feels responsible for those who benefit from women's co-dependence and their fixation on the prob-lems of others by expanding its scope.

A girl is a person who is socialized as a potential mother based on external sexual characteristics, not gender identity or gender. A woman is a person who is assigned unpaid work and condi-tioned to serve men and be available to society as an unpaid caregiver.

„This still means ... education for motherhood, since the vulva indicates that a person is highly likely to be able to bear children one day. The assignment of reproductive activities, which is not necessarily but nevertheless factually related to this, ultimately forms a key to understanding what it means to be a woman in this society. It explains the link between femininity and emotionality and caring, as well as the associated neglect of one's own needs.”
(Elvira Sanolas, in: „Feministisch Streiten” [Feminist Debates], 2018)

The counterstrategy to „wages for housework” – the compatibility of family and career – was never implemented. Neither was there a reduction in working hours, nor did anything change in terms of the underrepresentation of men in housework. Hundreds of expressions used to describe sluts help women to conform and not make any demands, continuing the process of self-shaming and internalized misogyny. In German-speaking countries, the female designation has died out since the introduction of the gender symbol – but the objectification, belittlement, and devaluation of women remain. And although women's overload and poverty qualify them as the prototype of the working poor, patriarchy never tires of cynically labeling them as multitasking power women and superheroes in order to postpone any burnout from caring and to instrumentalize them for the contempt of bad mothers and stay-at-home wives.

„Thus, reproductive work today is taking on an unprecedented global scale. Women on the other side of the world are leaving their own families ... to answer the call of wealthy Western women ... and offer domestic work and family care at unbeatable prices. It is even said that we are witnessing the emergence of a new phenomenon in the history of capitalism: the “doubling of female labor,” which deserves all the feminist attention in the world.“
(Louise Toupin: „Wages for Housework”, 2022)

Paternity leave instead of gender empowerment

Although equal participation by fathers in Austria is less than one percent, the state felt it was important to abolish the “mother-child passport” and replace it with the “parent-child passport.” The non-remuneration of women and the reproductive underperformance of men in the private sphere form the basis for all further asymmetries and the constant need for gender-neutralizing rhetorical modernization. In this way, the „balanced care contribution” pre-dicted for the foreseeable future can be indoctrinated far removed from any real counterpart.

SURRENDER TO WIN

The „So much has already been achieved” narrative

Whenever feminism praises its achievements („women can become judges”), it fills us with excitement about the approaching change. This obligation to gloss over contradictions is not abandoned even when one's own daughter experiences the same old street harassment and mothers end up with burnout. Of course, feminist approaches must be characterized by a certain pragmatism and cannot wait for the end of all patriarchal institutions. However, this must not lead to quotas for positions of power without involving men in care work. Where are the child benefit recipients, the househusbands, the raven fathers, the power men, the male stimulus providers for women, the pleasure boys to brighten up dreary everyday life, the strapping boys in tight pants, and the slimming diets for men? Anyone who would like to participate in uncovering further asymmetries is welcome to immortalize themselves among the tomato throwers, with my sincere thanks.

„In Austria, more streets are named after Nazis than after women.”
(Gertraud Klemm: „Abschied vom Phallozän” [Farewell to the Phallocene], 2025)

Why there is no reverse discrimination

Unlike men, women are systematically oppressed, not just individually. The church, marriage, the medical system, the sciences, the party system: all of these are characterized by authoritarian patriarchal rule, female subordination, discrimination, underpayment, and deep-seated prejudices against women.

Frauenunterdrückung ist stets in einem historischen Kontext zu sehen. Außerdem ist der asymmetrische Rahmen bei Vergleichen geschlechtsspezifischer Diskriminierung zu beachten. Während Frauen von männlich dominierten Institutionen und Männern unterdrückt oder angegriffen werden (Abtreibung als Strafbestand, sexualisierte Gewalt, Zuweisung von Reproduktionsarbeit) werden Männer von Männern umgebracht, vergewaltigt oder in den Krieg geschickt.

When men are disadvantaged or treated differently at a systemic level, for example by being forced to perform military service, it is male-dominated institutions that exert this coercion. They pursue the idea of a defensive, strong, and expansive masculinity, which, in addition to defending the nation state, also serves the purpose of separating women in order to maintain their inferior status.

„The important advances in women's, equality, and gender policy are merely an expression of ‚rhetorical modernization’ [...] as long as the fundamental asymmetries in a society that continues to be gender-hierarchical are denied or obscured. A male discourse on crisis that ignores this fact or reinterprets it in an essentialist way is decontextualized and therefore hypocritical talk, in which ‘the’ man is tearfully stylized as the lamentable victim of conditions de-nounced as ‚feminized’.”
(Rolf Pohl: „Men – the disadvantaged sex?”)

The patriarchal dividend

The reason why we are still waiting in vain for a male counterpart to feminism is that men gain an advantage from this separation from women. And even though some women today are better educated than ever before, this does not mean that they have more income, power, and satisfaction than men. And just in case you are completely igno-rant of the civil female perspective: the fact that women are awarded custody has to do with the fact that men only take paternity leave for longer than three months in a measly and antediluvian two percent of cases. It is due to the complete ignorance of men in partnerships that women are forced to be left with the children so that someone will definitely take care of them.

„There is no such thing as humane exploitation. There is no such thing as humane masculinity.”
(Kim Posster: „Männlichkeit verraten!” [Betraying Masculinity!] 2023)

Are there still feminists?

There are about as many feminists who are not satisfied with reforms as there are anarchists who also reject sexist domination. Some feminists survived the mass extinction at the end of the 1970s, but the majority of the remaining women have either assimilated or become so disillusioned that they choose camouflage labels—from philosopher to critic of patriarchy. On the one hand, women are made dependent on the judgment of men with higher status and on the capitalist system of addiction, and they prefer to deny their views rather than run the risk of acting critically toward men or the system. On the other hand, lifestyle feminism, linguistic feminism, and the queer-theoretical occupation of feminism, or rather the mixing of genderism and feminism, are the reasons why many have lost their commitment to feminist ideas. Genderism, or the multiplication of gender identities and their visibility, has nothing in common with the feminist movement's struggle for freedom, which recognizes reproductive difference as the origin of the patriarchal assignment of care work to women. At the same time, biological negation is symptomatic of a body-hostile society in which people are trained through shame to separate themselves as far as possible from their inner information system and to extinguish their feelings and resistance with addictions and self-sufficiency.

„Etwas Seltsames geschah in der späteren Phase der zweiten Welle mit dem Feminismus. Anstatt sich auf die Rechte, Bedürfnisse und Interessen von Frauen als Klasse zu konzentrieren, beschäftigte sich der ‚Feminismus’ plötzlich mit allen möglichen anderen Themen, die nicht offensichtlich mit dem Frausein oder dem Frausein in einem bestimmten sozialen und kulturellen Kontext zu tun hatten.“
(Holly Lawford-Smith: „Gender-Critical Feminism“, 2022)

Why aren't we all humanists?

Humanism is a boring and meaningless philosophical mindset invented by men who are underchallenged in terms of reproduction, which believes in the development of the male personality and, at most, offers moderate criticism of an overly exuberant Christian worldview. With its criticism of religion, humanism conceals its sexist attitude behind a supposed progressiveness that is symptomatic of the political left today. Unlike feminism, humanism, like any other mindset, policy, or institution, couldn't care less about concrete ideas and measures against inequality. Erasmus of Rotterdam, the most famous representative of humanism, was a pompous pastor's son and Latin nerd who would never have dreamed of actively campaigning for the democratization of his elitist educational ideals. For him, as for all phallosophers, „homo” did not mean human being, but man.

„When will the ‘great’ minds be knocked off their pedestals, put to the test, and scrutinized for feminist and postcolo-nial suitability? When will not only Nazis, but also racists and misogynists be discussed as such, when will we engage with African and Indian female philosophers?“ (Getraud Klemm: „Abschied vom Phallozän”
[Farewell to the Phallocene], 2025)

Matriarchy instead of appeals for solidarity

The final establishment of patriarchy came with the introduction of marriage and the end of matrilocality around 5,000 years ago. After women had to leave their familiar clan environment upon marriage, they could no longer count on the lifelong support of their community. The fact that women are driven into isolation and dependence in their patriarchal enclaves, where they rotate at high speed as emotionally unstable servants until they suffer care-giver burnout, should actually be enough to stop annoying women in the future with unrealistic calls for solidarity, but rather prompt us to restore the old matriarchal clans in the form of care centers.

„Neither I nor any other matriarchy researcher understands “matriarchy” as the opposite of patriarchy in the sense of “rule by women/mothers,” although this is notoriously and persistently assumed. In contrast, matriarchal societies are fundamentally gender-egalitarian, needs-oriented, balanced, and governed by consensus.”
(Heide Göttner-Abendroth: „Die Göttin und ihr Heros” [The Goddess and Her Hero], 2011)

PARES INTER PARES

Because our social and economic system is based on gradually eradicating communities or preventing them from forming, the creation of places of belonging must take precedence over all meaningless appeals for solidarity. It is also necessary to surrender to the personal addiction of social anorexia, avoidance of contact, and self-sufficiency, as well as to constantly move away from the exploitative addiction system characterized by accumulation mania and loneliness. As long as women are made emotionally dependent on men, the focus at the individual level must be on recognizing one's own needs, relearning how to care for oneself, and recovering from dependencies, not through medical interpretation, but through mutual assistance from experts with experience.

„It is breathtaking to see the contempt for death with which the topic of raising children is still treated in the radical left.”
(Heide Lutosch: „Kinderhaben” [Having Children], 2023)

Wages instead of respect

A central feature of capitalist dysfunction is the fact that parents are prevented from caring for their children under humane conditions and with a secure livelihood. Instead, the employment system demands their full-time availabil-ity. Equally remarkable is the fact that women's unpaid care work is not seen as slave labor, but as a feminine whim and personal choice that can be easily and supposedly entirely delegated to others. There is no other explanation for the political platitude of „expanding childcare facilities,” whose permanent promise is presented as the only measure of women's policy.

MULIER MULIERI LUPUS EST

Marginalized domestic work creates a similar sector of employment for women outside the home and provides transnational domestic workers so that mothers can engage in gainful employment in addition to their unpaid care work. The respected citizen gives birth to offspring, provides a free supply of human capital, and pays taxes through her second jobs. At the same time, she provides jobs in the low-wage sector and tax-paying care service providers, which cements wage disparities and further hierarchization of women and makes it impossible for them to show solidarity. Women are therefore not only wolves to other women, but also moral authorities who are sup-posed to remind us not to demand wages for acts of love and to be available around the clock.

„We assume that all women are housewives and even those who work outside the home continue to be housewives.”
(Mariarosa dalla Costa: „Women and the Subversion of the Community”, 1972)

On the other hand, women who demand money for their unpaid work are also accused by other women of de-manding „stove bonuses” or „alms,” contributing to a politically right-wing „mother cult”, or being social parasites living off the system because they prefer to devote themselves to caring for themselves and others rather than ruin-ing their health with overwork, sleep deprivation, addictive substances, and other coping mechanisms.

„The issue of refusing to work enabled us to demand a drastic reduction in the working day. It offered an alternative to the perspective of the institutional left with its ideology of work, which suggested that women should take on even more work in addition to what they already did at home ... Their financial independence [should] begin with the economic recognition of their housework.”
(Mariarosa dalla Costa, in: „Wages for Housework”, 2022)

Feminism as an antidote to capitalist patriarchy

Capitalism, which has driven many people into wage dependency through the accumulation of money, land, and property by a few capitalists, is the destructive final phase of patriarchy. In the emergence of capitalism, women were systematically pushed out of positions of power, excluded from activities necessary for sustaining life, and led into a state of non-remuneration. Their exploitation goes hand in hand with the exploitation of nature.

„Patriarchy” refers to a social order in which men occupy a privileged position and establish a fundamental gender hierarchy that has resulted in more female fetuses and children being killed since the 1980s than there have been victims of war since the dawn of humanity. As long as „girl” is used as a derogatory term, we are light years away from equality. As long as we call men “masters” and women “sluts,” we should resist all destructive patriarchal tendencies, including numbing ourselves with drugs and addictive behavior that could tempt us to conform to the system.

„Power corrupts the master as well as the slave, and it does not matter whether this power is exercised by an autocrat, a parliament, or councils. The power of a class is more corrupting than that of a dictator – the tyranny of a majority is the most terrible.”
(Emma Goldman, in: „Anarchafeminism”, 2000)

Speech bans and “analytical concepts” to water down the central patriarchal problem

Both women and men feel uncomfortable when “patriarchy” or “phallocene” are mentioned in connection with the destructive power of the necrophilic system of violence. For the latter, the male-friendly term “Anthropocene” is used, even though it is clearly phallocrats who are sealing the fate of humanity. Because no one wants to be blamed for maintaining patriarchal structures and victim panic is rampant among women, it is easier to defuse the problem by rephrasing it. This includes academically influenced terms such as “heteronormativity,” which obscures the issue with a foreign word that no one understands and seeks the problem in heterosexuality. When we talk about “male hegemony” instead of patriarchy, this leads to a trivialization of the gender hierarchy and the fact that women always occupy the lower-valued position. Instead of talking about the unpaid work of housewives, today we talk about “care” provided by caregivers and nursing staff or about caring for life, which obscures the separation between the private and public spheres and the gender-specific division of labor and undermines awareness of the problem.

„A discourse that does not constantly attempt to distort reality through language is more than just urgently needed.”
(Kristin Marleen, in: „Mein Huren-Manifest” [My Whore Manifesto], 2018)

In all such cases, experts emphasize the importance of an analytical approach. Instead of addressing men directly, they speak of „masculinities”, which shifts responsibility, or of „feminisms”, which fragments the solution. In order to suggest progress, more positive descriptions such as “male-dominated society” or appeasement tactics such as the explosive expansion of gender studies are often imposed. Wherever the word „traditional” or „conservative” appears, it would be more accurate to say „patriarchal” or „sexist.” Even more frowned upon than talking about patriarchy is promoting „matriarchy” as a solution, which is still misinterpreted as female domination. I'm not sure if this objection has ever been thought through to its logical conclusion. How realistic is it that women would try to oppress men, who are physically stronger? And why would women control men when they are not even capable of giving birth to our offspring?

„Gender equality is the veil used today to conceal the inferiority of women.”
(Carla Lonzi: „We Spit on Hegel,” 1970)

The myth of emancipation

Even after centuries of development aid for women, the readjustment of masculinity, reflexive gender identities and appeals for diversity, gender analyses and symbolic efforts toward gender equality, men who take equal paternity leave or men who work as elementary school teachers are as rare as a river in which one can still swim safely today. The situation is even worse when it comes to sexual and aesthetic care services. Women serve men and are available as providers of stimulation, while women as desiring beings do not exist in the public sphere. The fact that women today, in addition to their roles as incubators, housekeepers, and caregivers for men, are allowed to work in many male-connoted professions or in professions that require emotional labor, sexualization, and multitasking is not emancipation. It is a patriarchal charm offensive that promotes women into new dependencies and is sold to us as the pinnacle of self-determination and freedom. And, of course, the most important thing about any entry of women into male domains is either their fuckability, their patriarchal obedience, or their modest behavior, which predestines them for further love services.

„Women as self-determined beings are a mirage.”
(Sandra Konrad: „Das beherrschte Geschlecht” [The Dominated Sex], 2019)

The depoliticization of women

Women rarely make demands. They do not want labor rights for their domestic care work and curry favor with male judgment because their desires have been extinguished and they have been made dependent on being desired by men. They submit to the male list of requirements: look sexy and well-mannered, do not take up too much space, and perform work out of love and for the satisfaction of men. They are conditioned to do this from an early age. To this day, the only position available to women is that of a prostitute in brothels. The gender opposition consists of male sexual conquest and female devotion, and a defensive or consensual female sexuality. When queer escort agencies advertise themselves as inclusive (keyword: “by all genders for all genders”), this does not mean that women will encounter cis men there. Women are confronted with a limited and desexualized offering that is aimed at best at not frigidizing them to such an extent that they become incapable of satisfying men's needs. In my radio shows Bordelle für Frauen (Brothels for Women), I join my guests in searching for women's public desires and find answers as to how women can escape their nurturing role and their socialization into fuckability. In the podcasts, you can hear why sex work must be freed from its asymmetrical gender relations. Brothels for Women begebe ich mich mit meinen Gästen auf die Suche nach dem öffentlichen Begehren der Frau und ermittle Antworten, wie die Frau aus ihrer versorgenden Rolle und ihrer Fuckability-Sozialisation entkommen könnte. In den Podcasts könnt ihr nachhören, warum die Sexarbeit von ihren asymmetrischen Geschlechterverhältnissen befreit werden muss.

„Like patriarchy, the addict, as part of the overall system, seeks the solution in destruction. Whether we try to ‚save’ our ruined environment with geoengineering or expect ‚healing’ from our destructive lifestyle through therapeutic techniques, we do everything we can to avoid having to capitulate to patriarchy and our powerlessness within it.”
(Pamina Normal)

STARK RAVING SOBER

Capitalist patriarchy is an addictive system that drives us to ruin with its promises.

„If nothing else works, I'll just drink myself into oblivion.” = If nothing else works, women, migrants, and others degraded to social parasites can still do the dirty work while we continue to cut down the rainforest. At some point, we identify with the dysfunctional system and consider dishonesty, emotional suppression, and entitlement to be normal. We consider our isolated, disconnected state to be safer and more desirable than spending time on closeness and caring. I have collected more of the twisted thinking that separates us from our true needs for emotional security and belonging under Addiction Processes. Addictive Processes gesammelt.

„The Addictive System is built on dishonesty. It is a system that teaches that only fools are honest.”
(Anne Wilson Schaef: „When Society Becomes an Addict”, 1987)

The deranged thinking of the addict seeks solutions in destruction and abdication of responsibility. Capitalist patriarchy, like alcoholism, is a progressive, deadly disease that convinces us we are healthy and of sound mind, only to lead us knowingly into self-destruction. What Alcoholics Anonymous writes about alcohol (it is „cunning, buffling, powerful!”) can be redirected to capitalist patriarchy's ability to subtly renew itself and provide people with incentives as to why it is necessary for them to constantly produce more, consume more, and optimize themselves as high achievers.

„Consequently, it is in society's interest to promote things that ‚eliminate tension’, that make us preoccupied with our ‚fix’, and that subtly ‚numb’ us and turn us into zombies.”
(Anne Wilson Schaef, Diane Fassel: „The Addictive Organization”, 1990)

Activating men instead of development aid for women

Rape culture results from gender hierarchy and transnational division of labor, which assigns unpaid or poorly paid work to women, non-white people, or people who are viewed as lazy and useless. The polarization of high achievers and social parasites undermines people's potential for solidarity and pits them against each other. The solution to asymmetrical relationships and capitalist destruction is not to outsource care work to cheap domestic slaves or to make women submissively fit into phallocentric structures, but to involve men in female care realities and to train men in the qualities of love for women. In addition, medical and counseling approaches to combating symptoms must give way to the establishment of anti-hierarchical care communities. In my manifesto on the abolition of women, I countered the rhetorical eradication of women as established in “inclusive feminism” with gender neutralization, the rejection of unpaid care work, and the end of appeasement, pampering, and worship of men. The Manifesto on the Abolition of Women setzte ich die rhetorische Auslöschung der Frau wie sie sich im „Inklusiven Feminismus“ mit der Geschlechtsneutralisierung etabliert hat, die Verweigerung von unbezahlter Sorgearbeit und das Ende der Männerbeschwichtigung, Männerschonung und Männeranbetung entgegen.

„Co-dependents frequently have feelings of low self-worth and find meaning in making themselves indispensable to others. They are willing to do whatever it takes to be liked. As a result their caretaking often progresses to the point of workaholism. They throw themselves into their work (especially if they are in the caregiving professions) and often overwork.”
(Anne Wilson Schaef: „When Society Becomes an Addict”, 1987)

DENIAL IS NOT A RIVER IN EGYPT

Performance ideology and workaholism

The co-dependency of everyone on conformist femininity and male-oriented interests keeps the dysfunctional system running. People who were taught early on that they are worthless if they do not perform or optimize themselves want one thing above all else: to be needed. They become dependent on other people's problems, which blocks their path to recovery, while those who are mothered by them are driven into helplessness and a progressive deterioration of their condition. Men never need to grow up as long as women use them as hostages to satisfy their ailing self-esteem. The ideologization of wage labor remains the unquestioned norm for emancipation with the male universal. In order for prosocial behavior to be rewarded rather than workaholism, production for the commodity market must be subordinated to the reproduction of the social. Only the institutionalization of the male family caregiver can curb the primacy of gainful employment, reduce the burden of gainful employment, and end domestic violence and gender-specific education.

„In an interview with Clara Zetkin, Lenin also railed against the ‚petty, monotonous, energy- and time-consuming, and exhausting work in individual households’ that stunted women's development, ‚narrowing and dulling their minds, slowing their heartbeats, and weakening their will.’ As much as this criticism of housework cannot be dismissed, it is astonishing that, in contrast, wage labor, especially the disciplined, militarized kind, appears in such a glowing light, as varied and liberating.”
(Bini Adamczak: „Beziehungsweise Revolution”, 2023)

The Peter Pan syndrome in men

Every conversation with a man reveals that he suffers in a vague way from patriarchy and feels misunderstood. But instead of trying to resolve their ambivalent state and join the feminist struggle, men sink into self-pity about their patriarchal role or wait for the right conditions for transformation to be created. Most victims of violent crimes in public are men. But men are also catching up as victims in the context of domestic violence. This makes it all the more surprising that there is still no male counterpart to feminism. Despite everything, the benefits that men derive from their superior position and their separation from women outweigh the disadvantages that men suffer from the stereotypical gender role of the “strong and defensive man.” In addition, men are of course allowed to be anything and do anything, unless something already has feminine connotations and calls their highly praised masculinity into question.

„Men [are] driven by the question of how they can still be men, despite feminist criticism, instead of asking how they can participate in and support feminist critique and movements, even though they are men ... After an outburst of aggression, a whining collapse into oneself follows, which sometimes even results in women having to comfort those men whom they had just attacked moments before."
(Kim Posster: „Männlichkeit verraten!” [Betraying Masculinity!], 2023)

Women educating men

Ultimately, women must also ensure that men emancipate themselves from their reproductive underload, abandon their self-destructive behavior, and commit to a partnership-based relationship. In response to the crisis of patriarchal masculinity, women, in a display of preemptive obedience, seek more suitable constructs of masculinity in the form of „Healthy", „Critical", or „Caring Masculinities", fueled by a blatant optimism that assures us that with a little help, male resistance to femininity, paternal underperformance, resistance to change, and authoritarianism will simply vanish. This codependent circling around men's problems only reinforces their passivity, preventing them throughout their lives from relinquishing their misogynistic stubbornness and taking responsibility for their ignorance of female realities.

„Both the sexualization and the subjugation of women are sold as the pinnacle of their self-determination. Although women today have more scope for self-presentation than before, the images of femininity have not fundamentally evolved; they have merely been supplemented with male demands.”
(Sandra Konrad: „Das beherrschte Geschlecht” [The Dominated Sex], 2019)

SEXISM SELLS

Fuckability is opium for women

Women today are less dependent on men's money, but all the more on their attention and admiration. Their addictive denial convinces them that they aren't greedy, that they're different from other women, and that they aren't afflicted by the Cinderella complex. The social currency with which women buy their recognition and respectability is their ability to please men with unpaid acts of love. Women can only achieve equality with men through the martyrdom introduced by Christianity. Only when they are constantly available for others and also perform emotional and aesthetic labor to make others feel good are they not classified as sluts who owe men something. In the end, they stand there overburdened and exhausted, just so they can be respected and have someone condescendingly hold the door open for them or otherwise harass them with chivalrous gestures.

„Both the sexualization and the subjugation of women are sold as the pinnacle of their self-determination. Although women today have more scope for self-presentation than before, the images of femininity have not fundamentally evolved; they have merely been supplemented with male demands.”
(Sandra Konrad: „Das beherrschte Geschlecht” [The Dominated Sex], 2019)

Your body, our choice

At every bus stop, advertisements featuring nearly naked women – models in lace-trimmed tops, opulent breastplates, and taut nylon straps – satisfy the male gaze. This asymmetrical presentation of nudity is garnished with appeals to a guilt-free sexiness, supposedly not driven by the eroticization of gender inequalities, but rather by every woman's uninfluenced desire to display her enhanced body. With its pseudo-feminist appeals to self-worth and its conflation with „fuckability“, the prostitutional indoctrination of women shatters the sound barrier of double standards.

„Sexy, not sorry“, a slogan of a well-known lingerie manufacturer, represents an affirmation of voluntary self-sexualization, from which women are supposed to derive their value and find well-being. „Your styles, your rules“ by another lingerie marketer distorts the fact that it is the rules of the patriarchy according to which women’s bodies are staged as stimuli for men, and self-confidence for women is only available in combination with a sexiness that is geared towards the preferences of male viewers.

„The greatest fear of patriarchal rule: the independent woman who practices birth control herself.”
(Katja Grach, „MILF-Mädchenrechnung”, 2018)

For more neglectful mothers, stiff nipples, grumpy shrews, and men in bikinis

Where is the revolt? Where is the resistance? Where is the work refusal, where is the global care strike? Where are the egalitarian communities that unite us against state control, displays of power, and impoverishment?

We need reciprocity, social participation, and the abolition of the monopoly of interpretation!

When will women rebel against dress codes, slave labor, aesthetic work, and subservience to the masters?

For everyone who is fed up with sexist culture, male standards, the control over female reproduction, „sexism sells”, patriarchal ignorance, and the infantilization of women: Hit it and destroy what makes you dependent! Help empty the patriarchal cesspools! It's time for the next round of tomato throwing! Here you can contribute to bringing the „reversal” of gender asymmetries to light. Tomato Throwing! Hier könnt ihr dazu betragen, dass das „Andersrum“ der Geschlechterasymmetrien ans Tageslicht befördert wird.

„Sexual desire is thus seen as something that the woman triggers, and not as something she herself feels.”
(Miriam Strube: „Subjekte des Begehrens“ [Subjects of Desire), 2009)

ET PORCI SUNT

Pigs need straw! – (Time is running out) = Women need money!

These messages from the Verein gegen Tierfabriken (Association against Animal Factories) can be translated into the urgently needed feminist demand for fair wages for women in order to eradicate the gender hierarchy that causes violence. Whether it's called a „stay-at-home mom bonus” charity, or whatever the elitist silencing tactics of some well-to-do women may be: the main thing is not to be poor, to no longer be subjected to violence, and to be freed from the obligation to accept poorly paid side jobs! More on this can be read among the tomato-throwing posts.

Feel free to also find out on the following pages:

• why people repeatedly fall into the addiction process and hope for freedom from external control through consumerism, drugs and self-optimization
• the mental illness of patriarchy seduces us with its promises and makes us dependent on our fuckability, so that we provide more and more additional services for the system
• logically, matriarchy cannot be a rule by women, but rather an anti-patriarchal anarchy with a focus on care relationships
• personal recovery from the need for approval and validation leads us out of codependent processes.
• men are supposed to serve as stimuli to satisfy our desires, so that we become as potent and rebellious as the witches before the introduction of capitalism.

„Love can’t flourish in a society based upon money and meaningless work: it requires complete economic as well as personal freedom, leisure time and the opportunity to engage in intensely absorbing, emotionally satisfying activities which, when shared with those you respect, lead to deep friendship. Our ‚society’ provides practically no opportunity to engage in such activities.“
Valerie Solanas: „SCUM Manifesto“, 1967)

From isolation to collective action

Women want attention and an end to their care cages and care ghettos. They want to connect with other caregivers and be paid like men for their work, who would never be accused of institutionalizing their status as construction workers or mechanics with a wage. The housewife role has long been institutionalized, but thanks to subtle terminological obfuscation, no one notices anymore. We feminist bastards demand total economic and political restructuring, free from any obligation on the part of women! Enough with the Sunday sermons, enough with obedience, cakes, cookies, and lame coffee concoctions, enough with the blather of ego-bruised feminists, enough with the cock-sucking of pop feminists. Give us money, time, space, and sex! Enough of wrinkle-free fair-feminism!

J’ACCUSE!

Would we also consider men's work unworthy of payment? Would we leave men to rot in front of toilets? Would we mutilate them? Would we shame them, degrade them, chemically castrate them, and pluck out their remaining body hair? Would we expect oral sex and orgasms from them every time they had sex with us? Would we lace them into corsets so their testicles wouldn't dangle? Would we be offended if they revealed the truth? Would we force them to impregnate us, to care for our children, to do all of that?

Would we also not pay men for their care work?

Let's pay women so that their care work becomes attractive to men too! Let's compensate women so they can become independent and decide for themselves whether and what additional paid work they want to do! The problem isn't paying alms, but rather the sensationalism surrounding women's pay, which derails every attempt at equality and leads us by the nose with the same old killer phrases, excuses, and empty promises. Be loud and disruptive, make demands and chant!

Hit the heads of board-nailed chauvinists with heart-shaped tomato balls, smash the hearts of embittered men-pleasers, and dump Polpa in the swimming pools of the system's keepers! Send in your outrage, photos, slogans, and scorching analyses!

Join the tomato-throwing!

There is hope when women no longer have to rely on gay porn for sexual arousal and can visit a sauna or wellness club without a prostitute's license. Until then, we are irreconcilably opposed.